Baby's sense of responsibility is needed from small train and care for, do not because of their failure to affect the baby a little sense of responsibility, what factors will kill your baby's sense of responsibility? A look together.
1. Destructive criticism when a child did not do one thing, parents of destructive criticism, because the wrong thing, leading to negative people will make the child feel too painful. He will find a responsible equal pain. As a man, if he's unconscious, the responsibility is equal to the pain, he can not make a good husband; as a woman, if she's unconscious, the responsibility is equal to the pain, then how can she take care of her child! Damage of criticism lead to it, everything depends on your connection to the child's nerves. American child psychologist told the parents whether this growth has affected the children were studied. He cited a number of links to the children are suffering and destructive words: use a terrible word - stupid! Liar! Useless things! Waste! Insulting - you really a big eater! Rubbish! Waste! With you, like father ! blame - I told you not to do, you have to do is really incorrigible! repression - not irrational, I will not listen to your excuses! forced - I say no to no! dare to talk back! threats - you do not learn, my mother does not love you! Get out! beg - I beg you to look for a English bar, son! bribery - as long as you do on your score of 100, I'll give you 100 pocket money. Dig - washing dishes, you hit a bowl, real line, we still do great things, Dream on! These words are often the parents are enthusiastic words. This will not teach their children well, it will only make things harden, even children's bad behavior will enlarge, resulting in the hopeless.
2. Too severe, so that children can not be responsible for, afraid of failure, fear of punishment when we too harsh and out of the wrong of penalties after the kids. "You have to drive out to succeed, not fail!" "The physical must be a 90, otherwise, stop into this family!" "If you test into college, my mother would not live!" Lastly, when we over-severe, the child not responsible, because he feels can afford to bear the responsibility.
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